I’ve been spending quite a bit of time recently researching premature ejaculation treatments and how to last longer in bed online and I have noticed that there seems to be predominantly two kinds of information floating around and to put it bluntly – Most of it isn’t very helpful at all.
There’s two kinds of advice
It’s either over medical where they talk about guys with premature ejaculation as though they have some sort of disease that needs intensive treatment and counseling. While on the other hand you have the sort of advice you’ve probably seen before on a B-grade college flick. The problem is that most guys who are first releasing they have a problem with their lasting ability are going to believe a lot of these things they read online.
premature ejaculation myths
Mens coach and Author of Last Longer Now, Adam Davey has written a great article here where he goes over 3 common premature ejaculation myths and does a pretty good job of debunking them. It seems like a lot of this advice is coming from a misunderstanding of the basics of the male ejaculatory system and how it operates. Many incorrect advice seems to come from the perception that the process of ejaculation begins in the pelvic region, where as anyone you has spent any amount of time working with guys wanting to last longer would know that the precess starts a long way before that.
Think about her
Another area were bad advice is created is from men who see ejaculation during sex as being isolated to your partner and your interaction with her. Knowing how to handle the extra stimulation of the woman you are having intercourse with cannot be achieved unless you view the changes within you ejaculatory region within the context of sex as a whole. This kind of advice always seems to treat the woman’s satisfaction and enjoyment as secondary of importance and is destined to lead to fulfilling and inadequate sexual encounters.
Methods that work
So now that you know what doesn’t work to help you last longer in bed it’s time to look at what does. The good news is that there are quite a few ways to help you improve you lasting time when done correctly. Over the coming weeks I’ll be going through the list below and discussing each in a bit more detail. I should also note that all of these methods have been referenced from Adam Davey’s book on preventing premature ejaculation. It’s call Last Longer Now and is by far the best guide going around on premature ejaculation. If you haven’t already you can grab a copy at his site www.last-longer-now.com. Here’s the list in point form, and remember I’ll be looking at each in more detail shortly.
- Breathing methods
- Meditation to relax mind and muscles
- Mental control techniques
- How to “Get in the zone” during sex
- Sensual awareness and why it is much better than the distraction method
- Recognizing arousal levels and knowing how to react
- Ejaculatory reflex control
- Cool down and emergency tricks and techniques
- Sexual positions and recognizing when to use which
- Sexual techniques variation and how to use it
- Methods to relax the core muscles before tension reaches the ejaculatory areas
- How to talk to your partner
- Arousal exercises
- Endurance exercises
As you can see there really are a whole lot of ways to last longer in bed and what’s great is that they will all work together which means that the more you learn the longer you will last. That’s all for today, but don’t forget to check back soon where I will be looking at each of these skills in more detail.